Brian Gosur

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Ever Feel Like Putting Up a “DO NOT DISTURB” Sign on Your Life?

The distractions are a part of life, but distractions in the your business can be devastating. They can come from very important people in your life, but one thing is certain, you cannot let them go unaddressed. They have got to be dealt with and should be dealt with right from the start of you entering into owing your own business.

Ever feel like putting up a “DO NOT DISTURB” sign on your life? I have and maybe you have as well.

I know this is going to be a rehash of something that I posted awhile back, but I think it ‘s that important. I know that it has been something that I have been continually fighting since I entered the network marketing industry with my own business. Every time I think I have it settled,  it shows its ugly head again.

Why does everyone constantly tread on your valuable time? Is it because they don’t take you seriously and they don’t hold the same respect or value to your time as you do?

That’s the heart of it. Now I know that there may be some variations to that truth, but that is basically the bottom line. People are not going to take you seriously until you take you seriously.

An example is company events. I never thought that they were as important as they are, so therefore my wife and my family would place other events into my schedule, sometimes without my knowledge, and they just assumed that I would drop everything and rearrange my time to accommodate them, and that’s exactly what I did.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love my family and my family means a great deal to me, and most of the time I would deem the things they wanted me to attend as important, and I would put myself out for them, but I realized that there has to be a definite dividing line between my business and other things, and it’s up to me to keep and hold that line steady.

You should have a business plan and some type of guidelines set up for yourself to follow, and they should be for both short and long-term goals.

I do daily and monthly plans and I have set for myself yearly plans as well. You have to have this set in place and then comes the hard part. Learn to follow them. This learning process can be hard to do, but it’s a process you have to complete.

Leave room for adjustments, as they will come. I don’t mean that you should be so hard and staunch in your attitude, that you are just a drill Sargent and no one can approach you. Be flexible, as this should also be a part of your business plan too.

This past week is a great example of this.

In one week, my grand-daughter asked if I would go with her into court and support her in facing one of the worst nightmares anyone can face.

She is ten years old and has been approached in a sexual manner by someone who she knows. She finally confided in my wife and it has resulted in a court case. I love my grand-daughter and I would drop anything that I was doing to be with her, and her family, during this very difficult time.

In the same week, my daughter-in-law’s father took his own life and the funeral was in the same week. We spent a couple of days with her and her family during another extremely difficult time.

These are situations that you would move events around, and create time in your schedule for. Anyone of you would do the same thing, and these are the things I’m talking about, but the crazy friend of the family who is always calling you, or the daughter who is calling you because she is upset over breaking another nail, those are things that you just don’t have time for at all.

Remember to follow these simple steps.

  1. You have to take your business seriously and you have to set yourself up for success, because no one else will.
  2. Make a business plan and learn to follow it, and I do mean this is a learning process.
  3. Make room for adjustments and only fill them with the important things in life.
  4. Learn to say, “NO”, to the time and energy draining items and people that drain you of your time and energy.
  5. Make sure you get the right amount of sleep and challenge yourself to get healthy.
  6. Remember, It’s OK to put up the “DO NOT DISTURB” sign on your life.

This is what true leaders and successful businesses must do to survive and prosper. Your business will thank you and your family will thank you.

Great Moments Are Born From Great Opportunities

As I look back at my fifty seven years on this earth and reflect on the great opportunities that I have had, I have a hard time thinking of them because there haven’t been that many. When they came I was either not ready or was never looking for them in the first place, because I thought, I don’t deserve to have great opportunities. At least that was what was grilled in my head as a young boy growing up. I was always told that you would never amount to anything. I was told that I couldn’t do it. So I thought to myself, why even try.

As I was going  through school, I loved sports. Baseball, football, and hockey. My mom would never let me play football, because she said I was to small and I couldn’t play. The same thing she always said to me…I couldn’t do it.

There was a teacher in school who noticed me and started to spend some time with me. He saw in me what I could only dream about, and he encouraged me to go out for sports.

I was never a big kid, but I was fast. I could run, and Mr Hardy saw that. He worked with me and continued to encourage me to try out for sports. When we would have our scrimmage games, everyone had a hard time getting to me. I could out run anybody.

I did sign up for baseball for one season and I don’t remember how the season went but I know that I loved every minute of it. The friends and people who actually cheered for me and thought I was real good. I had never heard that before, ever… in my whole life. I liked that feeling of victory. Unfortunately my parents never came to any of my games.

My greatest love of all was hockey. Go figure, my mother would never like me playing football but hockey was OK. The reason was because she didn’t have a clue what hockey was and she never went to the games. She never saw the cuts and bruises and little shoving matches that we would get into.

Now I am in network marketing and paving a new road in my life, that is almost like my childhood all over again. Lots of people tell me that I can’t do it. It’s a whole new business that I have to learn. Not many people give you any support or encouragement. The camaraderie of my team and others that are on the same road as I am, is where I get my strength, and encouragement. It’s what makes you a good leader. As a leader, there are going to be those times when you will stand alone.

Maybe you are on that line also. Thinking about starting your own business? Thinking about network marketing? Be careful who you listen too. Get the right answers from the right people, not from those who don’t know what their talking about or who have failed and quit.

I would be lying to you if I said that I never think of quitting. I think that is a natural event in every leader, but quitting is never an option. Quitters never win and winners never quit.

There is the story of  Hernan Cortes who, against all odds, defeated and brought down the Aztec empire. In one very decisive battle, his troops were ready to start walking  away and quit. He ordered all the ships to be burned so that his men had no other option but to either fight or die.

Where are you? Are you in a decisive position? Is it either fight or die for you? Than stay and fight! Don’t listen to the doubters and the people who are failing in life themselves. This is your time. You can do it. Now go out there and take it!

This is your time. Now go out there and take it!

Do You Live Life in The Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is where you feel safe. No waves. No rough seas. See no evil, hear no evil, and speak no evil. I’m not going to bother you and I don’t want you to bother me. That’s the comfort zone. Or as some call it…living in the box. Where do you live? Do you live in the box……I mean do you live your life in the comfort zone?

I don’t mean comfort like you are financially comfortable. That’s where we all want to be. I mean comfort in the fact that you will never stray to far out of the comfort of your box. Like a puppy or a new born chick. They will never stray to far away from their mother. Why would they? They have warmth, food, and comfort. Kinda like why so many kids today, who don’t move away from home and make a life for themselves. They are comfortable there. They don’t want to move away from that comfort.

Eagles are a great example of this.

Eagles can soar to heights of 10,000 feet

Eagles are very beautiful and interesting birds. They build their nests on high cliffs to keep intruders out and their eggs protected. After those eggs hatch and the birds are born, they will grow up and be fed and protected until they can take care of themselves.

The mother will get the young  ready for flight by flying close to the nest with food in her mouth, but never giving it to the young birds. As she flies by, they try to grab it from her. Teetering on the edge of the nest their wings are open and flapping to keep from falling. In this way they are exercising the wings that will eventually allow them to soar at heights of 10,000 feet and reach speeds up to 35 mph.

To get the birds out of their comfort zone, the mother will take out the soft feathers that had once lined the nest. This will expose the thorny sticks and twigs of the nest, making it anything but comfortable.

To the reluctant bird who just doesn’t want to leave that warm comfy nest, she will eventually push him out. As he falls, he had better learn how to use those wings. She will come underneath him a couple of times and catch him to try again. This will only happen for so long. If he hasn’t picked it up, she will let him fall to his death.

97% of the world’s population live their lives in their comfort zone. In the box. Only 3% venture out of the box. Those are your Donald Trump’s, Robert Kiyosaki’s, and Thomas Edison’s of the world. They are the risk takers. The people who dare to dream. The adventurers of this world. The entrepreneurs that will leave their marks on society. Discover the cure for a disease.

Thomas Edison tried over a thousand times to build an incandescent light bulb. Just think how many people must have laughed? How many must have thought he was a bit crazy? But he never quit until he did what he set out to do.He could see that light bulb in his head. Nobody else could.

Determination, perseverance, and a will that is not moved by the naysayers. You know…….the people who are shouting their insults and negative remarks from the comfort of their box. That is what is needed to be a network marketer. You have to get uncomfortable. You have to get out of the box.

Do you want to soar like an eagle? Do you want to go to new heights? Do you want to fly where very few people have gone? Are you an eagle? Than get out of the comfort of your box and fly!

Financial Crisis Got You Down?

Financial Crisis anyone?

I think it is safe to say that there are not to many people who have not been hit by this economic melt down that we are facing right now in this country. So many people afraid of losing their jobs. Afraid of whats around the corner. Living under, and being controlled by fear is not a good thing.

Fear causes stress, which causes illness, which causes premature aging. How does a baby have that smooth soft skin. Not a care in the world. Oh to be young again.

Let me know what you think about our economic situation in our country, and in our world. We live in a world economy. How has it affected you or someone in your family or a friend, co-worker. Sign on and let me know what you are feeling and what you are thinking today.

Visit my blog and leave a message as to how you are doing to make ends meet in this economy. I will be writing a series of articles about this subject and your comment and messages will help me. With your permission, I will be using some of your comments as well.

If you or someone you know is in need of another stream of income, weather it be part time or full time, go to Numis Network and see if this might be something that can help you.

Happy New Years

I would like to take this time to wish all of you a Happy New Years.

This is a very unique year because we are not only ushering in a new year but a new decade. A decade is ten years. Wow! Ten years! Where has the time gone?

We had the terrorist attack of 911. The Y2k of the year 2000. Remember that? We all were buying survival kits, and getting ready for the end of the world. I had seven new family members added in grand children. I have a total of nine. Because I am a big sports fan, I look at the Detroit Red Wings who added a Stanley Cup to their trophy room. The Tigers were better, but no World Series Champion yet, and the Lions. Well we are still waiting and waiting.

Business wise it has been good for me. I have a system called, “Learning MLM Secrets“. An attraction marketing system that brands me and generates traffic jams and long lines at my websites. It has been a great year, and I have met some awesome people. Great leaders and successful business people who have partnered with me.

The past ten years and the past year has been a bumpy road, but there have been some smooth times as well. There are good people out there and there are good things waiting to happen, but we have to take the initiative and get with the right people and the right strategies and persist to the end. DON’T QUIT! NEVER QUIT! Until you achieve your goals and your goals should be to drive your car to victory lane. You Can Do IT!!

Lets make this next decade the best. Let 2010 be your best. Don’t let fear rule over you. Set your goals and drive to the end. No matter what.

Quitters never win and winners never quit. You are not a quitter, you are a winner.

God bless you and your family, and may your business prosperous and your 2010 be blessed.

Happy New Years

Missionaries

Websters official definition for the word, missionary, is…..”a person sent by a church into an area to carry on evangelism or other activities”.

Gary and Siham Jasmund

Gary and Siham Jasmund

There have been missionaries sent out by churches for thousands of years. There were missionaries that arrived in America way before the Pilgrims ever stepped foot on our soil.

The missionaries are always considered a very special people. They sell everything that they have. Leave their families and friends and go to a remote place that is far away.

Gary and Siham Jasmund are not any different. At least to us they aren’t. They are very dear friends of my wife and I, and they are missionaries to Ghana West Africa.

This process started years ago, when Gary and Siham would go on short missionary trips to Africa. They did various jobs and worked with different people, but what started to happen inside their hearts was a love for these people and the need that they had. Unaware to them, God started to perform heart surgery on Gary and Siham.

There was training and adjustments to the Ghana culture, and it has not been without it’s trials and bumps in the road. They sold all their belongings, business, and home and started walking on a path that God was clearing just for them.

They have been in Ghana West Africa for one year now and it has been a very difficult year, but God has clearly been with them. It has really been a year of them learning rather then them teaching anyone. Gary told me that a lot of people want to put them up on a platform that they don’t deserve to be on. ” We are just doing missionary work in Ghana West Africa, like all of you are doing missionary work right here where you live”,  Gary said.

It has been one of the greatest blessings of my wife Lori, and my life, to know Gary and Siham Jasmund. They will probably will not like me saying all this about them, but I am going too.

God has given them both gifts that He wants now to use in Ghana West Africa. Gary has just such an easy and humble way that he presents himself, and the ability to talk to people. Siham has the ability to see inside a person’s heart and know if they are hurting or not.

They are back in the states for this Christmas holiday season and will be heading back to Africa in January. We are all very much going to miss them, but we are not very far.  You see, they have a definite home in our hearts, and are always in our prayers.  This is how God keeps us together and a part of the work that they are doing over in Africa, through our prayers and financial support.

If you would like to read more about Gary and Siham Jasmund, please visit their website at; http://www.jasmundoutreach.com

If God is leading you to give toward their financial support, click on the donate tab below. If you would like to ask them a question you can email or write to their address below.  But one thing that you can do, and it’s free. Please keep them in your prayers!

Thank you and Merry Christmas.

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Thanksgiving Celebration

Story of ThanksgivingPilgrims

I am sure everybody has their Thanksgiving dinner recipes out. All the Thanksgiving traditions and the Thanksgiving dinners, but do you know the real story behind the first Thanksgiving dinner?

In 1621, after a very difficult year, the fifty-three surviving members of the original 102 that landed on Plymouth Rock gathered together for a three-day Thanksgiving celebration. Of the fifty-three Pilgrims that survived, only five were women.

They landed in Plymouth Rock on December 11, 1620. In a strange land in the middle of winter. This was not going to be easy.

In the first ten months they built seven dwellings, a meeting-house, and three small storehouses for food. They had provisions with them when they arrived, but those went  quickly in the very harsh winter. Sickness and death found its way in among them, and forty-six Pilgrims died that first year. The winter was so harsh and food and warmth were getting so hard to find, that their food ration was five kernels of corn a day.

Why did these people go through all of this? Taking their families and leaving England to start a new life in a land that they did not know?

Think about that for a moment. Put yourself in their shoes. Their devotion to God and the freedom to worship Him as they see it in the bible, drove them from the land they were born. A land where all their prosperity had to be left behind. Friends and those family members that did not go, were probably never going to be seen again. They were giving up everything. For what?

I think if I were there, I would have told them to stay. Stay in England! This is where your roots are! So what if the government tells you how to worship, and where to worship, it’s not worth going to somewhere you’ve never been. Who knows what fate awaits you over there. Even the journey by sea was long and dangerous.

Outside of a brief try at life in the Netherlands, it was agreed to go to the new land. They were not the first ones who had been there, but they were among the first colonies to stay and lay down roots in a land they would call home.

Then there was the problem of trying to set up new relationships with the Indians of that land. These Indians had seen white people come before, but now to have them stay……that was another story. The Indians were very cautious of their new neighbors.

After watching them struggle and many of them dying, the Indians made a treaty with the Pilgrims and showed them how to fish and plant food that would grow well in the soil of their new home. If it were not for the Indians, many believe all of the Pilgrims would have died that first year.

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That brings us to the first Thanksgiving celebration. It was not what we do today, because the English always had a celebration that they did every year, but this time they brought in their Indian friends. The harvest had been good, because of what the Indians had taught them, and they and about sixty of their Indian friends were going to worship God and give thanks.

Remember, there were only fifty-three Pilgrims left. They survived a long winter on rationing the last few corn stocks they had left. Some of their family and friends died. They were cold, and yet they were going to feast for the next three days with their new-found friends, on the provisions that God had provided for them.

That is just amazing to me. I know that times are hard right now for a lot of us. The economy is down. Many have lost their jobs. But we live in the greatest country on the face of God’s green earth. We can worship were we want too. We can worship what we want too. We have it so good today, and all I ever hear is people complaining. Some people are such whiners and complainers, that I think if you gave them a million dollars, they would complain that the bills are too stiff. You can never make them happy.

After everything that they had been through, these fifty-three people got down on their knees and gave thanks to God for all that He had provided.

Gratitude! The missing element in our society today. We live in a, ” You owe me,” society. Everybody grabbing, taking, and never giving a thought to say thank you.

I don’t know what your tradition is at Thanksgiving, but this year at your Thanksgiving celebration, give a thought to someone or something that you are grateful for.

Find someone who is struggling, and reach out to give them a hand so that they also may enjoy a heart of gratitude and thankfulness at their Thanksgiving Celebration.

Happy Thanksgiving

Brian Gosur

ABC’s of Life

Avoid negative sources, people, things and habits.

Believe in yourself.

Consider things from every angle.

Do not give up and do not give in.

Enjoy life today: yesterday is history, today is a present, tomorrow may never come.

Family and Friends are hidden treasures. Seek them and enjoy their riches.

Give more than you planned to give.

Hang on to your dreams.

Ignore those who try to discourage you.

Just do it!

Keep on trying, no matter how hard it seems. It will get better.

Love yourself first and foremost.

Make it happen. Just do it!

Never lie, cheat, or steal. Always strike a fair deal.

Open your eyes and see things as they really are.

Practice makes perfect.

Quitters never win and winners never quit.

Read, study and learn about everything important in your life.

Stop procrastinating.

Take control of your own destiny.

Understand yourself in order to better understand others.

Visualize it.

Want it more than anything.

Xcellerate your efforts.

You are unique of all of Nature’s creations. Nothing can replace you.

Zero in on your target, and go for it!!

What is your target? What are your goals? Sometimes that is the easy part, but finding a system or process to attain those goals, and sticking with it, can be the hardest part. Learning the secrets to life is the key that unlocks the doors to success in anything that you decide to undertake. Take that first step today.

Life’s Handbook

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
Col 3:23 “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men”