Brian Gosur

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Christmas Giving and Receiving

The Christmas season is here again. My favorite time of year. The snow, the cold, the lights, the music, and……..the presents. Come on you know you like rushing down in the morning. The smell of the fresh coffee, the tree, and all those beautifully wrapped gifts under the tree. I always look and try to guess which one is mine. Of course I do this very indiscriminately. I can’t let on to people that I’m looking.

“It is more blessed to give then it is to receive.” We’ve all heard that before, and especially around Christmas time. It is so true. There is something that goes on deep in your heart when you give to someone else. Someone who has a special need that you can fill, and they don’t have the resources to ever pay you back. There is such a blessing, a warmness in your heart, that comes to you when we do that.

But what about receiving? Christmas giving and receiving? That’s another question. That is the hardest thing to do. Why? What is it that makes it so hard to reach out to a hand that says, I want to give to you, and you don’t owe me anything for it.? Why do we struggle when it comes to receiving? We hear things like, ” I have my pride”, ” I don’t take charity”.

Our economy has put a lot of people, who are good educated people, that are not on drugs or have a drinking, or gambling  problem, out on the street. These people have never taken a dime from anyone and they are finding themselves in the soup kitchens, and sleeping in the homeless shelters. Receiving is hard.

There was a story about a lady who fell asleep while she was driving. The car spun off the road, crashed through the guardrail and hung onto the side of the cliff with one tire. Several motorists stopped and tied the rear bumper of the car to a tree so it wouldn’t go over the edge. Every little movement of the car, they could her the girl inside screaming. Finally the fire department came and pulled the car back onto the flat ground, but the one firemen said he could her the girl constantly telling them that she could do it herself. Now that might have been just the shock and trama of the whole scary ordeal that she was in, but isn’t that  funny, that in that terrible state, all she could say is, “I can do it myself “. This women was thinking she could do it herself, and didn’t realize that all these people had to work together to save her life.

We always feel that we have to give something back or do something for every gift or good thing that comes our way. Why? What about Christmas charity? Christmas giving? Christmas help? Do you need Christmas help?

I am going to give you four reasons why I think it is so hard for us to do any receiving.

  1. People have let us down in the past. (hard to trust anymore)
  2. Ego or Pride. (this is why a man doesn’t ask for directions)
  3. Emotional Insecurity (I ride the wave of giving to forget my own insecurity)
  4. Past Incident (we feel unworthy to receive)

Can you imagine getting a Rolex watch for Christmas and reaching into your wallet and asking the person, “how much did you pay for that?’  “You shouldn’t have”. Then you reach into your wallet and say, “here, let me give you something. I know I can’t pay for it all, but let me give you something.” That would totally offend the giver, and be very rude and embarrassing.

These same things prevent us from receiving the greatest gift of all time. The gift of God’s forgivness and a new life.

You see having faith in God is not about doing, it’s about receiving. The difference between Christianity and any other religion is this. In religion, I work a list of all kinds of different things to do for God. He receives those works and I get all the credit. In Christianity, God does the work, He gives to me, I receive, and He gets all the credit. This is the truth about Christmas.

It’s hard for me to receive when I was raised to always believe that I don’t need anybody. I can stand on my own two feet and get the job done all by myself. God should be happy He has me on His team.

But we can’t do it on our own, just like that women who couldn’t keep her car from going over the side of that cliff and plunging to her death, she could not save herself. Sin and a stubborn will have kept me from living the kind of life that I really want to live. The kind of life that God wants me to live, no matter how hard I tried.

What I could not do, God did. That’s what we celebrate at Christmas in Christianity. Receiving the free gift that God paid for on that cross so many years ago. We celebrate the entrance of God into our world at Christmas. He came for one reason. To pay the penalty for your sin and mine. The penalty for sin is death. (Romans 6:23) The gift of God is free. (Ephesians 2:8-9), (Titus 3:4-5)

Now the way is open. I can come to God, receive His gift, and with Him, start to learn to live my life the way He intended it to be.  Jesus said, ” I have come that they might have life and have it to the full.”

Now my friend all the obstacles have been removed. There is nothing standing in your way, except a stubborn, disobedient heart, and even that He will begin to heal once He comes into your life. Just ask Him. That’s why He came. Learn to receive. Reach out and take His hand. He has a gift for you.

Revelation 3:20; ” Listen! I am standing at the door and knocking! If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in and dine with him and he with Me.”

Do you hear Him knocking? Do you hear His voice?

Christmas Thoughts

Cabin in the woods

Cabin in the woods

Christmas is my time of year. Christmas thoughts of times past.

I love the winter months of November and December. I know, I know, that may seem weird to a lot of people. All I hear at this time of year from just about everybody is, “It’s so cold, I wish we were in Florida or California were it’s warm and sunny.”

I love winters in Michigan.

I think of ice skating in the open air rinks. Taking a rest inside a log cabin where there is a warm fire, sipping on a cup of hot chocolate, and listening to a guy playing his guitar and singing some Christmas carols.

I think of playing hockey with the guys at an outside rink, that we made.

Sledding down a hill and falling off the sled as you slide all the way down in the snow. Laughter and fun times with friends and family.

I think of trudging out to the woods and finding just the right tree. Cutting it down, dragging it back to the truck, taking it home and trimming it before we put it up in the living room window. Wow, I still remember how beautiful it looked after it was all decorated with lights and lots of old and homemade ornaments. And the wonderful smell of the fresh pine scent that filled the whole room.

Not being able to get to sleep on Christmas eve. Thoughts of Christmas presents under the tree as my brother and I, laying in our bunk beds, and talking for hours until we finally and slowly drifted off to sleep. And than killing ourselves as we rushed down the hallway to see what waited for us under the tree.

My wife and I watched the movie, ” The Grinch that stole Christmas”, the other night. The one part that stuck in my head from the movie was when after the Grinch had stolen all the presents, and all the things that represented what we all think today, means Christmas, he stopped and listened from the top of the snowy mountain that he called home, and instead of hearing kids crying and people wailing away from the loss of all the things that were stolen, he heard something very different. He heard singing, and people coming all together and even though they didn’t have their things, they were still celebrating Christmas. Holding hands and singing around the Christmas tree.

The Grinch stood there in amazement and silence. He couldn’t believe what he was hearing! As the snow continued to fall all around him, he thought, ” I guess I didn’t steal Christmas after all. Christmas isn’t in the things that we spend our money on, that we buy in stores. Christmas is in your heart. It comes from within. Than an amazing thing happened. The Grinch’s heart grew three sizes that day.

That to me, was the best part of the whole movie. That was the theme of the movie. Our society puts so much on presents and getting things, that we really miss the true, and real meaning of what Christmas is about. We have lost that over time, and over years of rushing and going as fast as we can to achieve and preserve what we have worked for, and for what we want and for what we can get. We, we, we. I me my. That is what we have turned into.

It’s about giving not getting. It’s about letting someone else go first instead of me pushing my way to the front.

” For God so loved the world, that He gave his one and only son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16. God loved, so He gave. What do you love? That’s what you will put first in your life. Whatever you love comes first. It’s human nature.

Well anyway, those are my thoughts about Christmas. What are yours? What thoughts scurry through your mind when you think about Christmas?

Give to someone. Help someone and see if your heart might not grow a couple of sizes too.

Let me know what you think. I really would like to know. I want to see how many thoughts from Christmas you all can accumulate and post.

Thank you. God bless you and Merry Christmas.

Brian Gosur                                                               Grinch